Watch Out for Red Flags!
Red flags are those comments made by someone
that make you feel uneasy, as though something is not quite right.
You may notice something that is said,
or it may be certain characteristics and behaviors that make you uncomfortable.
A red flag is something that makes you think twice about pursuing anything with that individual.
Many times it takes weeks or months for those red flags to show.
So it's important initially to use e-mail and other communication tools
within the online dating service, instead of your own personal email accounts.
Also, don't share any personal information online until you're comfortable.
In fact, before sharing any of that information do a basic background check.
Therefore, while you are learning about this person you are still protecting yourself.
Let's discuss a few examples of what constitutes a red flag.
Some of these may seem like a no-brainer to you,
but it's important to keep your mind open even to the subtle indicators:
Do you notice embellishments, exploitations, overt bragging ...
If the person provides you with inconsistent information or lies about anything it's a red flag.
Watch comments regarding marital status, skills, experience, interests,
profession, employment, age or family.
If the person does not provide you with direct answers, you should be asking yourself why.
Take notice of any inconsistent responses.
With any of these concerns,
you should do a basic background check.
Its simple, it's free.
All you need is phone number for a basic background check.
You can also do that check with a name and address.
In some cases, all you need is a name and general location.
When someone refuses to make phone contact after you have established relationship online,
it’s a red flag it's a red flag.
Do they insist they don't have a photograph and constantly make excuses for not getting one.
Any of these could be an indication that there is a spouse or significant other involved.
There is a problem when someone seems interested in you;
but they avoid introducing you to family and friends, after meeting you.
Avoid anyone who makes demeaning or condescending comments
about you to his or her family, friends, or co-workers.
This is a person who will attempt to belittle your self-esteem.
You will avoid a problem and wasting your time.
Watch out if the individual seems to become irritated or angry easily.
Look for signs of passive-aggressive behavior.
Do they attempt to put pressure on you?
Perhaps they are overly persistent in getting your phone number,
your address, information about your work, your family, your children.
Do they pressure you hard to meet now, when you're hesitant?
Be concerned if someone begins to show a sign of excessive possessiveness or obsessive behavior.
If they show signs of "stalking", it may be time to move on.
Watch for the clear signs of a gold-digger.
The person is much too young to be interested in building a relationship with you.
Typically, their object is to target someone who is single, divorced, widowed, without children or heirs,
financially stable, willing to accept poor health.
Beware of anyone who still lives with their parents.
Take a second breath when you hear some common romantic lines.
They say their turn-on is walking on the beach, snuggling,
and sitting in front of a fireplace gazing into each other’s eyes.
While some people do enjoy this; to determine if this person is sincere,
you need to do some more investigation.
Keep asking questions.
For example, "when was the last time you walked on the beach and what did you do?"
Are they on many dating sites?
Have they been on dating sites for an extended time?
Are they afraid of making a commitment?
It's definitely a red flag when they have served time in jail/prison.
People can change but this is something to learn much more about.
Be careful when a person has a lot of baggage and negative history.
Kudos should be given to anyone who has overcome obstacles in life.
However, in most cases, it takes years of therapy and hard work to conquer serious issues.